Tuesday, 14 December 2021


It can be a little overwhelming when looking for the perfect pieces for those evening or party wear looks, especially from a modest dresser perspective. You know when you're browsing online for God knows how many hours, days or weeks to the point your head can no longer take anymore of the scrolling and you just want to fling your phone right out the window. Then 'oh wow look at that' you find the right amount of glitz and glam to a dress and you're thinking yes this is the ONE until... bam you get hit with a slit on the side or chunks from the side of dress is missing (where did the rest of the bloody material go?!). Yes, OH yes we have all been there I am afraid, well fret not longer my friend! I managed to put together a few glitz and glam covered outfits together and if this is still not to your taste I curated an edit of my favourite finds (pieces and brands) below for you to shop from. 












Monday, 20 September 2021

self-love and confidence diary

Loving one self is probably one of the hardest journeys to stumble through in life, as humans we have a tendency to self loathe and doubt very easily as if it was programmed in us from birth. We are always so quick to give ourselves that talking down to pet talk instead of uplifting ourselves. You almost think it's a crime, an inhumane act to speak and think nicely about ourselves. If it's not on how our outer self looks, it's our behaviour, thinking, logic and the list continues. 

However, if we don't consider ourselves worthy, then why would or should anyone else? Why is it so hard for us to be kind to ourselves foremost and give ourselves some slack if we are capable of doing that for others?

There are some individuals out there that naturally have self confidence and that inner love, for some it takes a lot more work. This was me. Before going further it's good to point out that there is a fine line between cocky type of confidence and humbled confidence. I am talking more on the lines of being content and understanding of our outer and inner selves. Truly appreciating what God had blessed us with and accepting of who we are as an individual. 

The introverted individual that I am, I was always the one to observe and listen rather than saying my two pence, which isn't always a bad thing but certainly got in the way of boosting my confidence. I use to find it daunting being around people for so many reasons such as; I never thought I had anything of value to say or what I may say will be considered laughable, instead I remained silent and would only listen. Not to mention when speaking up the disconcerting spotlight would be shining on you for those few seconds or minute, I dread the thought of people staring at my nose or features I wasn't quite happy with. Again leaving me with the thought I would be laughable. 

Growing up with an unusual shaped nose didn't help towards my confidence level, the transition from high school into college is where the struggle really began. Feeling very unsettled with the thought of not looking like everyone else with much 'smaller' and 'straight' nose, I would walk around finding ways to cover it. I would only allow people to take pictures with me straight on so no one could witness the abnormality of my side profile. I went as far as covering my side view with my hand if anyone was to sit next to me. Being told that the possibility of marriage would be difficult because of the shape of my nose, or men are only into small noses from family members threw my confidence way out of sight. Thinking about that now is completely ridiculous because firstly who gives a shit if a man doesn't appreciate your uniqueness and secondly marriage isn't the be all. I always believe the right person will love you for who you are and wouldn't want you to change an ounce of yourself. 

Something you may not accept about yourself, another will find it the most beautiful feature that shines through than any other. 

Of course the next best thing popped into mind- a nose job! Not condoning anyone for going ahead with procedures to make them feel more confident, it's whatever makes you happy. However, one of the best decision in life was not going ahead with a rhinoplasty. I went ahead with consultations and planning to get myself in debt just so I could have a nose like everyone else. Until one night I sat on my bed in tears thinking why am I changing something that God had blessed me with, who am I to alter that?

If anything my nose is a symbol of; growth, character, hardships, strength, history and most importantly lessons that I have had to entail through life. Rather than hiding such a powerful statement I should embrace it. 

In the end I didn't go ahead with it, I decided to learn to love this flaw of mine, to nourish and appreciate the unique beauty God had blessed me with. 

Overtime it has also made me realise that there is so much more to life than how we look, inner beauty is what radiates throughout and is portrayed outwardly.  

I have definitely come a long way since then and although those passing thoughts still pass, I shrug it off more often than so because I'm becoming more content with who I am. This is who I am and I will continue to learn and flourish. As you grow older and with age you learn to not care what others may think because believe it or not everyone is so absorbed with their own problems that they don't have time to think and dwell on what you're thinking of at that moment. 

Over the years I have found working on myself, reading self-help books, taking part in courses, do things I enjoy, take a day out to do something out of your routine, learning gratitude and grace has aided towards a better level of confidence. Truly taking a day out of your week to pamper yourself increases better understanding and love towards ourselves. 

I've always been one to enjoy spending time with myself, it's difficult for me to spend a huge amount of time around people this including my most cherished one's (sorry hubby and mama!). This is something I've learnt over time that I need at least 30 minutes in the day just to myself, otherwise I start acting out of character. I need quiet time, a moment to hear my thoughts and the uncontrollable buzzing in my mind. Being with my own energy, body, mind and soul allows me to breathe and to really delve into myself.  

I have always had this trait from a very young age but I'm actually not afraid to be alone. I rather enjoy being in my own company. Even though, I do love the time spent with friends and family, I do love my own company. It's just finding the balance of the company spent.

Embracing a part of us we don't truly want to accept ourselves is not an easy journey, heck it is one of the most strenuous and draining path to entail. However, it is one of the most rewarding and uplifting feeling to absorb. To accept every little nooks and crannies about ourselves and feel confident to go out in this world with it. Self-confidence takes a lot of work, time and patience. We all have our great days and our worst, which is completely in it's normal. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise, tilt that head of yours up, take a deep breath and show the world how exquisites you truly are. 


Tuesday, 31 August 2021

The Year 27

One chapter closes and another welcomes you with open arms. The year of 26 was a gracious year to say the least, there were life changing events, a couple of bumps along the road and some of my happiest moments all wrapped up in one. Overall I am a little sad to see it go but excited to see what the year of 27 brings! 

There is so many discussions to have being on the other side of the twenties, the older side shall we say. The side nearing to the dreadful (queue dramatic music) thirties. In all honesty as I am nearing to the year three zero I'm quite intrigued and exhilarated to reach such a pivotal moment in life. Even though I do moan about being old, a thought we all have silently lurking in the back of our minds. I always consider the years being young. 

This year has taught me many things but it has most certainly coached me in the life of independence, living away from family and adjusting to a new life with my husband. It has been a joyful rollercoaster and I wouldn't change a thing. We have always been a very close knit family and to be away from them in another city has been a challenge, not to mention an overload of emotions. Slowly with the essence of time, living so far is becoming slightly easier. 

The hardest part of it all was enduring the pitiful feeling of loneliness. 

I think this is something that isn't talked about so often when leaving home and starting a whole new journey in another city or country for some. As much as I adore my husband and practically spend every minute together, as women we always crave that feminine energy, a girlfriend or companion. This is something I have really been struggling with, as easy it is to say 'Oh why don't you just make new friends?' As an adult its just not that simple and in all honesty it's just another drawn-out process that can run you ragged. Especially with the harrowing anxiety feeling looming over you. 

Over time I have realised dynamics of relationships have changed a little due to moving away and instead I am appreciating my own company in a different light. Embracing the time I have with just me. Relying on God and myself. Soaking up the tranquilness from my own solitude. 

My relationship with God hasn't been the strongest but it is something I want to work harder on during this time.

However, not all is so morbid being on the other side of the twenties, in actuality I have never felt so securer in myself. Whilst the years go by I have always felt a little more confident and a little more wiser in who I am. Simply not giving a rat ass about what anyone thinks of me, in a non self absorbent or rude manner but with more of a self-accepting mindset and unnecessary criticism being ignored. As I continue to grow in knowledge, self and inward understanding, I am reshaping my mind, giving it strength and becoming that much more head strong. Readjusting the crown we once called the mind. 

The year 26 has been a year that has taught me a lot about myself, which will of course continue. It has gifted me with incredible experiences, wisdom along the way, a lot of realisation and all in all a year to think back to. Undoubtedly it has dragged me out from my cosy comfort zone and into the concealed unknown with the exception of having my best friend (hubby) along for the ride. As scary as it may sound, I think it has been one of the best things to have happened, helping me better in countless ways. Allowing me to appreciate family, companionship, health, and time considerably more. Some of which was easily attainable but now difficult to work around. 

I still have so much to go through in life, many plans, ideas, investments and experiences to endure but I always say it's the journey that makes the destination much more fulfilling. 

I look forward to what the year 27 brings ahead, most importantly just grateful that I am given another chance to live life abundantly each day.  


Thursday, 17 June 2021

Jewellery Staples - favourite brands

Jewels or jewellery have always been a sign of adornment, such delicate and beautiful creations to beautify oneself with. I have always had an admiration for the the little gems, especially earrings. I find they complete an outfit or make a perfect gift. There is so much more to jewellery than we think. 

I know speaking from my own stance, I have jewellery that I will simply wear everyday because it holds value or sentiments to me. However, I have a collection that I simply wear for special occasions. That's the thing with them, they hold more than just an added thing to an outfit, jewellery holds meaning, a special place in ones heart.  

Therefore its important to grab yourself that ever lasting set of jewels, the worst thing after finding the perfect piece is later down the line it begins to fade into that vomit green. I am sure we have all been through that distraught feeling of 'eurgh now I've got to chuck it away?!"

There is so much fun to have when styling certain jewellery pieces, you can never have enough of stacking and layering to really elevate a look. Although I feel I still have a long way to go with my jewellery collection, a girl has got to share her staples and favourites in the bling game. 


Great place to shop if you're into stack and load, layering those necklaces to really upgrade ones look.



Is a danish brand that caters to making you feel beautiful in their unique pieces. 


Daisy London have the best dainty pieces to add to your collection. If you're also a little stuck on where to begin your luxury jewellery collection this would be the best place to start. 


Known for it's classic and staple pieces, you also have the option to build your own charm bracelets with their large variety of stylish charms. I also find Pandora to be the ideal gift for another. 



Mejuri is all about fine jewellery for those every day moments. 



Perfect styles, shapes and sizes for those ear jewels, if you love to adorn your little ears this is the right place to head. 

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